Changing my Relocity

Good Morning little bloggie. I'm beside myself today and trying to reflect on all the craziness in my life lately. For starters I am still with Mr. February! Yeah, I'm shocked someone actually survived four months. It's rare for me to keep any guy around for three months so you know he has to be special if he's made it to four. :) It doesn't sound like a very long time though. It almost sounds ridiculous to say this but it feels like we've been together for a year or more...is that weird? It feels so complicated that it needs some kind of scientific name or something...lets call it Relocity: the rate at which a relationship progresses. :-)

It's definitely too soon to tell anything for sure and I'm doing my damnedest to keep my guard up so my heart doesn't get crushed to pieces for the Millionth time, but it's not as easy as it sounds. One thing I've learned throughout my dating days is that the relocity of a relationship is never the same from couple to couple. I've also learned that the faster your relocity, the more chance you have of getting hurt and feeling like a dumbass in the end. I agree with a lot of people when they say we are moving too fast in our relationship. On the outside looking in, they are so right. But at the same time, I feel like Mr. February and I are the only ones that can gage our relationship status.

If it can be harmful to have a relocity that moves too fast, does that mean there is also a point when your relocity is too slow and if so, how do you find the happy medium? I've been paying attention to my current wingwoman who has a record of very slow relocity in relationships. Atfer two years she is still recovering from being dumped out of a 10 year relationship from a guy that says he thought they were just "friends" and nothing more. She says she ignored the signs and wanted to avoid confrontation and that is the only reason it lasted so long without taking any steps forward or backward in their relationship. So now 10 years of this young womans life has been thrown away due to slow relocity. She claims she has always been taught to move very slow and it's the right way to do things according to her parents. As her wingman, I've noticed her relocity is stagnant because of these preconceived traditional secret guidelines the guy has to follow before a date but has no idea they even exist.

So is it worth it to take your time to do it the "right way" or is it just waisting time? I think our generation has a distorted sense of reality when it comes to just about everything. Everything we do is based on a preconceived notion of the "right way to do things" and the "wrong way to do things". I'm sad to say this but it's evident that we have lost our roots of intuition and forgotten how to just follow our hearts.